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The Question of Kaepernick

If given the choice, would you choose right or wrong? Moral or immoral? Love or hate?

Let’s find out.

Do you think Colin Kaepernick has a right to earn his living, or do you think he should be punished for expressing his beliefs?

Let’s be clear. It’s not about whether Kap can play football. It is an insult to everyone’s intelligence (including yours) to pretend the blowback for teams so much as entertaining the thought of signing him has anything whatsoever to do with his ability throw a pass.

It’s not about whether you like him as a person or you disagree with his stance (However, If you believe racism, inequality, and police brutality are things to be proud of, you are a special kind of you.)

It’s not about his socks. There are people wearing white sheets and hoods. There are people with Nazi swastika tattoos. There are enough Confederate flags and offensive tee-shirts to go around. You can purchase those socks from Itsy, Amazon, and Nike. Did you stop buying from those companies because they were disrespectful?

If the Ravens or any other team is concerned with fan reaction to Mr. Kaepernick playing, it is, I believe, because the organization already knows what the right thing is. What they don’t know is if they are brave enough to do it. They don’t know if integrity or opinion will make them the most money and what will bring the largest ridicule.

The reasons for not wanting Colin Kaepernick are a basketful of opinions: He disrespected the flag; he dishonored Vets; he diss’d America; he’s not worthy; he can’t play; he sucks; whatever, whatever… opinion.

The reasons for supporting him are facts: He stood up for marginalized people. He brought national attention to an age old problem. He put his time/energy/money where his mouth is. He has been treated worse than players who have actually committed crimes, created chaos, and/or do not play as well… facts.

If you think negative opinions matter more than positive facts, then, you are the reason, people like Colin Kaepernick— people who favor integrity —have to disrupt your game to get your attention. Otherwise, the suffering you inflict would continue to go unchallenged.

Stepping away from the intentional blindness and all the usual diversions— Colin Kaepernick didn’t break the law. He didn’t even break a rule. And, he spoke the truth:

Supremacy and Privilege have caused a lot of damage. It needs to stop. Period.

Denying the truth is choosing to be wrong.

Doing nothing to address the problem is choosing immorality.

Punishing Kaepernick for speaking is choosing hate.

Guess what? Regardless of who you are or all of the great deeds you do; if you knowingly and willingly choose to be wrong, immoral and hateful, you are on the side of privileged supremacy. Your empathy is deficient. Your integrity is absent. Your understanding is insufficient.

You may as well own it because nobody is fooled by your doublespeak.

It behooves me to point out: you also lack the ability to scare us, stop us, or make the truth go away.

I’ve heard a lot of denial on the topic of privilege and supremacy. I also know there are a lot of football fans.

Unless Kaepernick gets to play, this football season isn’t about touchdowns. It isn’t about cheering for your team. It isn’t about the Anthem. It isn’t about socks. This season is about supporting supremacy or supporting truth.

God & Trump

Is Mr. Trump in office because God wanted him there? Hmmm…Let me think….                          For me, personally, that would mean:

God is okay with supremacy and racist agendas

God needed to cheat to get a particular SCJ pick

God doesn’t care about character

God is okay with lies

God is okay with abuse of power

God is okay with manipulation

God is okay with dehumanizing people

God is a conservative

God doesn’t choose all presidents, just the Republican ones.

God puts politics above Christianity

God forgot to mention his choice to the Pope

God forgot the 2nd Fatima secret (whether Russia has been appropriately consecrated or is spreading errors) is still in dispute

God contradicts the Bible

If that’s true, God might be a hypocrite, he apparently picks sides and suddenly New England’s Super Bowl win makes sense (It was rather miraculous).

On the other hand…

There are a few things in the Bible that might explain it:

There’s the part where Israel desired a king, and as stupid an idea as that was, he let them have one. (1 Samuel: 8-10)

There’s the time when his people demanded meat instead of the manna he gave them, so he gagged them on Quail and a plague. (Numbers 11)

There was the time when he said his people didn’t listen to his voice so he gave them over to the stubbornness of their hearts. (Psalm 81: 11-13)

There is that part about blinding their eyes and deadened their hearts so they can’t see or understand—or turn and be healed. (John 12: 40)

Do you see my dilemma?

There is, for me, another way to understand it. It has to do with that funny commandment: Thou shall not take the Lord’s name in vain.

Don’t lie, Don’t murder, Don’t commit adultery, Don’t say Goddamit…really? Word choice is up there with murder? (Wouldn’t asking God to bless things be the same type of vanity?)

As a writer, I can tell you language is liquid. It moves, it changes, it adjusts. Dumb used to mean, couldn’t speak; nice meant silly; and awful meant full of awe. I doubt, one of God’s Laws, written however many thousands of years ago, for the benefit of the whole world, was based on twentieth-century grammar and/or American Fundamentalism. But, that’s just me.

Instead, I believe, don’t take the Lord’s name in vain means, don’t take the Lord’s name in vain. Don’t attach God’s name to your manipulations. Just because you thus saith the Lord, doesn’t mean the Lord thus saith it.

If God wants everything that you want and nothing you don’t want, that’s probably more than a coincidence. It might have something to do with you whipping God’s name out like an interest-free credit card.

If you justify your actions by evoking God, that’s not authority. Self-justification isn’t a God-thing.

If you are imposing on other people’s free-will, God isn’t in it. That’s not something he does.

So now, how will I ever figure out if Mr. Trump’s presidency is because God wanted him there?How indeed?

I know. I’ll put it to a Biblical test. Two tests. Three tests.

Test #1 The good fruit test

A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Matthew 7:18)

Test #2 The Peace of God test

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:7-9

Test #3 The Profit test:

For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Mark 8:36

When I answer those questions, I can honestly say, I don’t believe Mr. Trump is in office because of a God-smack-down for anyone who isn’t a white conservative.

So, what do I believe?

Let me share…

I believe, America is at war with itself to define what it means to be an American.

The Trump Administration represents the ideals of an America whose core values are shaped by a history of supremacy, bigotry, racism, and privilege. These individuals cling to their beliefs and fight to retain the Status quo, so they pray determinedly and happily for this leader who hurts.

Those who oppose this presidency fight for an America that represents all Americans and loves all people. They wish to heal the past, change the present, and perhaps brighten the future. They pray for truth and justice for the benefit of all—not just some. If God does choose sides, I can’t imagine why it wouldn’t be theirs.

Us vs. You

Is your hate worth the confusing hell you have created? Surely, you realize, wrapping it in a web of politics doesn’t change what it is.

You feared a forged birth certificate. We fear a rigged election.

You feared a Muslim leader and Isis taking over the country. We fear a bigoted leader and racism taking over the country.

You feared the idea of Socialism. We fear the actuality of supremacy.

You feared not getting a SCJ pick. We feared you stealing a SCJ pick.

You feared paying for a health system. We fear a health system aimed at retaliation and punishment.

You fear black and brown people. We fear walls and bans causing more harm than good.

You feared your guns would be taken. We fear our freedom and/or our lives will be taken.

Your fears are hate-based and unfounded. Our fears are unavoidable and real.


You have spent the better part of a decade reacting and retaliating against a black man earning the presidency. Contrary to the lie, it had nothing to do with him being a liberal and everything to do with the spirit of supremacy.

Your history is to ignore the truth because truth equals accountability. It is clear, to us, you prefer dominance to accountability. You support walls and bans for the same reason you work to criminalize black people. Control.

Note** If you don’t think the Wall and the Muslim Ban (not banning all the Muslims doesn’t make it a not-Muslim-ban) are acts of superiority, put it to the test. How do you feel about the following statement:

In order to make America great, we have to think of the health and safety of its citizens. We have to think in terms of what’s best for the whole country and not just any one group. We have to fix or eliminate the threat to Americans — white people. History has shown there is no greater threat to America than white people. White people have been terrorizing their fellow Americans for…well, since the beginning. It’s time to put an end to unchecked white-terrorism. (If the phrase ‘white-terrorism’ sounds foreign or made you cringe, you might be a…) We need a Caucasian Registry and a temporary ban on all white men. Some of them are bad (can’t call them Hombres—they’re not that cool). Some white people believe in Sharia-Christianity and are keen to punish anyone who doesn’t practice accordingly. Extreme vetting of white people is necessary for the safety and well-being of every American who doesn’t sunbathe.

Did the idea of a Caucasian Registry leave you underwhelmed? Do you disagree with blaming  the entire race for what Dylan Roof did? If you’re not comfortable applying the same rules and judgments to white people you wish to impose on others, congratulations, supremacy is your thing.

You dislike our heroes like Colin Kapernick and Shuan King — they expose your hypocrisy. But, your criticizing voices go dead when injustice is proven. You have nothing to say about Jordan Edwards or the re-segregation of Alabama schools.

Sometimes you cover your desire for superiority with pretend-neutrality. Ignoring the conversation is siding with supremacy. It doesn’t matter how many pictures you post of dinner, your puppy or the beach; it doesn’t matter if you say you love everybody and wish people would stop talking about unpleasant things. There is no middle ground between supremacy and equality.

Not to worry. Your feigned indifference doesn’t bother us any more than your open disdain. Make no mistake, we like the pictures of your puppy, but we know you hate us. We have come to love that you hate us. Nothing displays our greatness better than your hatred.


1- We are white people who believe in ‘justice’ not ‘just us.’ We don’t use whiteness as a weapon or a shield. We, and our ancestors have been fighting ascendancy the whole time. We fought against slavery. We were a part of the Underground Railroad. We marched with Dr. King and faced down the Klan. We voted for a black president. We film police brutality. We wore hoodies for Trayvon. We stood with Standing Rock.

We understand when we aren’t trusted by POC because we look like their abusers and we have benefitted from their abuse. That’s why we listen; that’s why we learn. We, like Elizabeth Cady Stanton, William Lloyd Garrision, Viola Liuzzo, Anne McCarty Braden, Tim Wise, Matthew Cooke and others, use our privilege to advance equality. We often stand in opposition to the core beliefs of the majority of our own race. We love our race. We love it enough to hold it to accountability.

2- We are minorities of all brands — Indigenous, Immigrant, etc…every hyphenated and/or marginalized American. Anyone who has been targeted for not adhering to the white definition of acceptable. We will not allow supremacists to pit us against one another. We don’t care who has been beat-up the most; we care about protecting the weak and healing wounds. We don’t hate whom we are told to hate; not ourselves, not others.

We love our neighbors and we fight one another’s battles. We have been formed in the melting pot, we stand united because we are true Americans.

3-We are the reigning champs —Black people who aren’t fooled. Black people who laugh at your disdain. Black people who mock your contempt. Black people who rise no matter what. We know what this is; what it has always been. Supremacy has no credibility, no authority, and no weaponry that works against our minds.

Judgements, threats, lies and manipulations have no affect on us. What’s going to happen? Will we get beaten? Thrown in jail? Killed? Nothing that hasn’t already happened a million times over. Nothing that hasn’t already happened this week. You’ve been doing this for four hundred years, and still, we are not intimidated; we’re not scared; we won’t be stopped.

We side-eye your bullshit.

That line about being a good person; just doing God’s will— side-eye. Good people don’t call supremacy God’s will.

The idea, that supporting a racist agenda doesn’t make a person racist — side-eye. Supporting racist agendas is the quintessential element of racist identity.

That the election and this presidency is about anything other than reestablishing predominance — bullshit. Immoral, nonsensical, bullshit. Frame it in any manner palatable — pro-life; against Hillary Clinton; make America great; whatever— whether you know it or not; intended it or not, it’s still ingrained supremacy-bullshit.

That you, who are against us, can be trusted. Bullshit.

Unlike your hostility toward us, we don’t dislike you (we don’t care enough to dislike you). We pity the low place you’ve chosen. We’re not putting up with you, and we will fight against you, but we don’t dislike you. We don’t have to. Supremacy is a double edge sword that does far more damage to the person welding it than the one receiving. Your animosity locks you out. Your rancor saps your joy and makes you afraid. Your enmity keeps you down. Your hate is why you live in the confusing hell you’ve created.

Judge Not…but they do, anyway.

The Pro-life march happened yesterday. People came from all over to march in DC. They did it, to show solidarity in their fight. They did it to bring attention to their cause. They did it because they want change. They did it because they are Christian. And, the biggest thing to come out of it, for me, personally; was seeing the pharisaism and hypocrisy some of them put on display.

Pharisee – a member of a religious sect, distinguished by strict observance of traditional law, and commonly held to have pretensions to superior sanctity.

Hypocrisy – the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one’s own behavior does not conform; pretense.

Yup. That would be them.

I’ve got no issue with their cause. I have attended pro-life marches in the past, myself. I just understand it a little differently. I’m pro-life. Pro-all life, not just one segment. And, I do not think  God wants me to force my beliefs on others (He doesn’t violate free-will, why should I?). What can I say? I failed Basic Pharisaism. In fact, I failed all of my Religious-Control classes.

But they didn’t. These are your experts and teachers. Watch and learn.

Let’s start with the hypocrisy…such hypocrisy.

While they were planning their yearly march, I watched them mock and judge everyone else for doing the same thing. Is Colin Kapernick any less peaceful? Is his issue not pro-life enough? Why is kneeling on a sideline an unpatriotic display, but walking down the street the will of God? Meryl Streep should keep her mouth shut and not use her platform, but Pastor I-am-God should yell through a mega-phone using his. What were those election protesters called? Oh. Right. Snowflakes. Justifiable Black anger is thug-life. And, the Indigenous People’s fight for their sacred land is nonsensical.

Apparently, in America, only Pro-life Christians can have an issue worth fighting for. The rest of us need to meet with their approval first. Rest assured, we won’t get it because nothing else matters once you’re born.

What about that Pharisaism?

Those self-righteous, religious individuals laid out a smorgasbord of judgment and hate for the Women’s March. You know, those people who marched down the same streets as the pro-lifers. And a lot of other streets. In a lot of other places. All. Over. The. World.

The Woman’s March covered a vast array of concerns, but true to style, certain Holier-than-Thous, disregarded every positive aspect about it, in favor of negative judgment. People who were, by choice, not a part of the movement; not a part of the march, decided, on behalf of more than three million people, what the Women’s March was about, and decided, it was wrong.

If that isn’t a lovely pile of pretentious bullshit?

After concluding the largest demonstration in the world was about nothing more than wanting abortions, hating God and trying to be men, they benevolently, used their pro-life march as an opportunity to pray for the Women’s Marcher’s souls; a thing anybody can do at home, by themselves, while they are praying for their own. (But then, who would see it and know how gracious and god-like they are?)

Do you know why they made a show of that? I mean other than Matthew 6:5

And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.

It wasn’t because Madonna and Ashley Judd said bad words any more than it was about Colin Kapernick disrespecting the troops.

Just like every other protest, pro-life is an issue some people want to fight for. But it is tragic when some people use unborn babies as their banner and justification for hate. Clearly, control is their actual game. Retaliation -whether it’s a backhanded comment, a cry of unpatriotic kneeling, or a public prayer against strangers- is what they do to people they can’t control.

They call it God and then wonder why nobody believes them.

Silence, Noise, & Shitfulness

There has been a lot of talking from people who shouldn’t-people without experience, investment, knowledge or basic understanding. All they have is an opinion about the activities of those who live outside of their box and therefore outside of their approval.

They tend to judge and abuse based solely upon the lack of agreement with their meddling. These are the problem-causers who can be found at the source of just about everything that’s wrong with our country.

For example: Meryl Streep gave a speech. Some people didn’t like it. Not because it was inaccurate; hardly anyone said it was untrue (most of us possess the ability to comprehend). What they didn’t like was that she said it…in front of people…who could hear her…

And then the talking came.

How dare she use her platform for her own purposes? Don’t you know celebrities have no business in politics? Unless you are Jesse Venture, Clint Eastwood, Ronald Reagan or… uhhh…Donald Trump. In other words, celebrities have no business in politics unless their politics agrees with yours.

It took about a minute and a half for, I don’t know, let’s say…everybody, to point out the hypocrisy of that argument.

And then the talking came.

Full force diversion.

Here’s what celebrities SHOULD talk about. Here’s what other celebrities think celebrities should talk about. Meryl is a bad actress. Donald Trump is a wonderful person. Any news that shows Mr. Trump in a bad light is fake. And, my personal favorite: It’s disrespectful to the Vet’s… I kid you not. I actually read that. Someone accused Meryl Streep and anyone making that type of speech of being disrespectful to our troops and what they fight for.

Here’s a hint: When people bring disrespecting the troops into the conversation, they already know they are full of shit and they want you to feel bad about their shitfulness. Don’t. Anyone who is more offended by her speaking than her topic shouldn’t be listened to.

On the opposite end, those same people had a moment of silence; tremendous silence. They must have worn themselves out bitching about Meryl Streep because there wasn’t a peep from them regarding the repealing of Obamacare.

Just silence.

I realize, they are happy to have the ACA repealed. We’ve all heard way too many complaints about tax dollars being wasted helping people. (You know, those people who aren’t able to feed their children have it sooo good. They get a hundred and eighty dollars in food stamps and live a life of luxury off of our taxes, while we suffer, barely able to afford our house, cars, vacations, smartphones and eating out three times a week. What are their needs compared to our wants?)

But, these good, Christian souls, who care so deeply about what offends the troops, couldn’t muster an iota of compassion for people with real health issues, who have real fears about getting help.

They were all about discussing the terribleness of celebrities, but dead quiet about which church groups or social circles are answering the call. No stepping up, no comforting support, no suggestions of what a downtrodden, heartbroken, truly afraid individual might do for hope.

Just silence. Not merely a lack of words, but a silence that yelled, ‘Screw them all’.

You would think flaunting the title ‘Christian’ would make you want to, I don’t know…act like a Christian? Maybe? A little? You would think they would be the first to say: ‘Hey, we’re are not going to step aside while people die or lose loved ones because they can’t afford medication. We are going to reach out. We’re going to organize this or that to show people what love looks like.’

But, no. Just silence.

Because ragging on Meryl Streep for calling out Donald Trump is way more important than a child’s preexisting heart condition.

Of course, Mr. Trump did say, he had a plan. Everybody is going to be covered and all is right in the world. Mr. Trump also said, Mexico will pay for the wall, he didn’t know Putin, and he respects women… because he’s a pillar of honesty and Christians don’t actually have to be Christian with him in charge.

If you didn’t know what shitfulness means, you do now.

Stop and Frisk –Kiddie Edition

Not long ago, I reposted a disturbing (to me) live video clip of two police officers being confronted by a gentleman named Damieon Flowers, for taking personal information from three young kids.

My sharing made some people color-mad. Black people were angry at what they saw. But, some white people got angry with me. (Aren’t you surprised?) I was thoroughly chastised. Those hard-working police officers were interrupted from doing their world-saving job while that black man harassed them. I should have been ashamed of myself for sharing such garbage and stirring up trouble. (Ummhmm…)

Imagine how the conversation could have gone, had I been asked, why does this disturb black people? Or even, why did I choose to post it? That would have been civil, helpful, and possibly enlightening. I guess it’s hard to be enlightened and judgmental at the same time.

Not to worry, I’m going to explain what I saw in the clip for those lacking inner-city scenery. It looked like Stop and Frisk –Kiddie Edition.

To begin, this is nothing new. I don’t know if it has a formal name, but when I was younger, the adults in my apartment building called it ‘tagging.’ (Just like what they do with animals to track their behavior). All the kids were constantly warned not to get tagged. In other words, unless something has happened, don’t talk to the police…about anything. It was for two reasons. One: If you want to know about any possible illegal activities inside a house, it’s not difficult to pull it from the kids playing out front. And two: quotas. Patrol officers are expected to write reports and produce numbers. Those numbers have to come from somewhere.

As for the officers, I doubt they’re thinking anything malicious. But they do want to get paid so they need to make their quotas. Throwing a few young names on some stop and frisk reports is a quick way to get through a slow night.

Unfortunately, those names aren’t written in disappearing ink. Get stopped enough times, have the same information recorded over and over again for a couple of years, and it begins to look as if that juvenile is potentially problematic. If a real issue occurs, he already has strikes against how he is perceived. That is a real-time possible consequence of riding your bike in the city.

It’s very un-fun for us. It makes us angry. It makes us repost videos and applaud Mr. Flowers for protecting those children.

As for the non-personal experience judgments…

How do I know if that was precisely what was going on? I don’t, BUT…

Besides having seen and experienced tagging first hand, and knowing what stop and frisk looks like, there are some other things to consider.

1 – If the police in the clip were doing legitimate police work, I doubt a bystander would have stopped them. Obstruction of justice and whatnot.

2 – A genuine issue should have prompted protocol (and decency). Due to the trickiness of juvenile laws, the good cops I know (yes, they exist) would have put those kids in the safest environment possible, like, talking to them in the presence of an adult they trust. I’ve seen it done. Plenty of my childhood friends have been brought home first and then questioned about what they may have seen/done.

It’s necessary to address a couple of theories. Someone suggested the possibility of the kids being runaways and the person filming stopped the cops from helping them.

That would be seriously poor policing, I think.

Another comment was to throw shade on the type of parenting that would allow kids to be outside after dark, by themselves.

Besides, not having anything at all to do with the subject, since when does out-of-line-of-vision mean unsupervised when you are old enough to ride a bicycle? My personal assumptions lean more toward ‘permission to ride to the store’ (urban plus -there’s always one nearby), or ‘Yes, you guys can stay out for ten more minutes…stay together and don’t go any farther than…’ I imagined a worried mom/aunt walking up the street searching for her—now late—boys.

I admit, bad parenting wasn’t my first thought. But then again, neither was justification or diversion.

I’ll add one more image to boys-on-bikes-at-night in the city. When my mother worked the three to eleven shift, at eleven-thirty, my brother was there waiting for her to get off the bus. It was a good hike from the bus stop to our house. He often rode his bike (maturity is an inner-city staple).

Back to Mr. Flowers. Days later, a swat team showed up to arrest him (yes, swat, because that’s normal) but because of the visibility and support, there were no charges filed.

According to Mr. Flowers, his reaction was to the fear he saw the children displaying. It appeared to be stop and frisk –kiddie edition. Since he was there (and he caught backlash for speaking out), I’ll take his word for it.

But, be angry with me and judge away. For some people, anger is much better than solution.

The White Person and The Other White Person

I recently posted on Facebook a happy incident involving the kindness of a white stranger who expressed to me his hatred of racism and his desire to see more people like him speak out against it.

Most people enjoyed what they read. One person did not. That individual took exception to a statement I made. Racism is a white problem. Nothing else warranted a comment. Not the positive outcome of the racial dialogue. Not the courage of the man who spoke with me. Just the opinion, my statement is an act of reverse racism.

Of course, I believe racism is a white problem. White supremacy is a white-idea. Every white person in America has to decide if it is an idea they will embrace or reject. Those who don’t like us—their problem. Those who feel they are a better race—their problem. Those who want us to behave according to their expectations, again—their problem.

Reverse racism? Really? Oppressing people, taking their lives, stealing their possessions, dehumanizing them, excusing those actions and claiming superiority is somehow on par with a black person saying something a white person doesn’t like? Clearly, one of us doesn’t understand what racism is.

The actual definition of racism is: The belief that a particular race is superior or inferior to another. I’m not sure about reverse racism because I’ve only heard the term used in the form of white reaction to a person of color speaking an unpleasant truth. My personal definition is:  White privilege having a temper tantrum.


The exchange brought to the forefront the contrast between the two white mindsets—the subject of the post and the person who complained. The one, choosing to be part of the solution. The other choosing to magnify the problem. The one initiating peace, the other picking a fight.

The one took action in an intentionally positive manner. The other caused a disruption in an intentionally negative manner. The one spoke from his own experience. The other challenged mine. I didn’t ask either one of them to talk to me, I just happened to be visible, yet, the one spoke to me as an equal. The other sounded like a judge.

The incident represents the truth of my statement (at least it does in my opinion). Racism is a white problem. Having to choose to be part of the problem or part of the solution is the dilemma white people face. Sadly, for whatever reason, it’s a difficult choice for some of them.